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作者：Sandy_Rose 在 海归酒吧 发贴, 来自【海归网】 http://www.haiguinet.com
this was written by me back in June.
i think it could be entertaining posted here...
I guess I am just not smart enough, or was I only lucky.
The conversation with Northstar starts with him sending me some advices:
Here is one for you:
> > > > > > 一个情感过于丰富，对生活有太多感悟和渴望的人，这辈子注定难有真正的宁静，尤其处于一个缺乏创造力的环境时，要么窒息而死，要么突破求生。
I went ahead and asked him:
Do u really think I am one of those? I think I am not really that experienced. I still have a life time ahead of me to figure things out.
The kind and gentle Mr. Northstar replied:
No, I do not think you are one of those experienced lady like XX MM (the name has been changed to protect his/her identity)
> > you are a beautiful young lady full of potential (<-- I read between the lines and took it as that he is implying I am cute but stupid, the potential thing was just trying to be polite, I guess…hehe…)
I responded:
I guess I was lucky then. I seriously couldn’t understand women who are mean and angry at men all the time. I love men and I think they are lovable in general. I guess it is just not surprising that those ladies who complained about men are still single: if they are complaining about them all the time, what kind of good men will be interested in them? A sensible lady knows how to attract men, if pretending to be silly is necessary/ worthwhile... 
He replied:
When you are in love, you feel men are good, but when you are in hatred, you feel all men are bad... Plus, you grew up in Canada and has a foreign thinking that all men or women are good except ..(This reminds me of the foundation of western law system: innocent until proven guilty, Vs. the Chinese version: guilty as charged until proven innocent. My, oh my! Shall I start writing my Relationship and Law? ).
So in this sense, you are a western girl, do not have much mean spirit of a Chinese lady… (<-- Again I am not sure if this is a compliment…)
I like you a lot..I feel domestic Chinese ladies over 30 are too complicated in general.. ( I thank him for that, and meanwhile, I am also a Chinese lady approaching age of 30, gosh… in… almost no time… )
plus some of divorced ladies... from my contact, divorced women is better than some of those single old ladies, who went to bed with many men and then claim men are bad...maybe they just want to get something out of that relationship and are doomed to lose... ( <--Just like I said , married men are clean toilets that are taken, single men are broken toilet, divorced men are half clean toilet which need to be cleaned with less effort. Apparently, women are the same! Hahah)
The conversation reminded me about a story I read:
从前，有位村妇。 这女人生来抱怨不停：未嫁之前抱怨她父母不给她貌似天仙，老天对她不公；自己挑剔不说，反怪天下好男人都死光了。委曲求全嫁了人了，就抱怨她男人不会赚钱，不懂照顾孩子家务，长得太丑，个头不高，对她不好， 总之是配不上她。 诸如此类的抱怨了大半人生，只到有人告诉她说，山里有位老道，据说是能为人排忧解难。 于是这女人去向老道讨教。 絮絮叨叨说了她这一生如何不幸，如何生不逢时，老天待她如何不公， 如何就找不到一个如意郎君。。。老道听她絮叨大半天，直到这女人絮叨累了， 才对她说：听你说了这么多，一定渴了。 于是拿来茶壶倒水给这女人喝。只是水已倒满了杯子，溢了出来 ， 老道还是不停地往杯里倒水。这女人忍不住问那老道，杯子满了，怎么还不停倒水。老道答，这杯子正如你的心胸，早已经装满了怨恨，还怎么装得下幸福和感激？
我只希望我自己时时都能心存感激，才不至于在抱怨中了此一生。
So think positively, always appreciate what life has to offer and seize the day! Being a bit Ah-Q probably helps. As I said, if the man I truly love wants me to be a bit cute and silly in front of him, why would we women act like the know-alls all the time? Just pretend to be the cute little woman your man wanted around him and make him love you more. Why are those average looking girls, with a not so smart brain have a life happier then the pretty and smart ones? It’s because they realize life needs to be appreciated with a 平常心。
It is truly an art to make a man love a woman. What is required is to have a certain level of EQ, not an Einstein IQ!
When I started writing this piece, the title was: I just don’t understand! After finishing it, I changed it to My Epiphany of the day… Thanks to Mr. Northstar
作者：Sandy_Rose 在 海归酒吧 发贴, 来自【海归网】 http://www.haiguinet.com
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