你“建议北京奥组委气量大一些,还是邀请斯皮尔伯格参加奥运会开幕式“,是一种"斗争"的策略 ,假如拿来处理特别是与弱小的一方关系,是符合东方传统式的“宽容大度“。但是这件事,我觉得“争锋相对“更好,你打我一耳光 ,我也只需要打你一耳光,没有必要OVEREACT,效果可能比你的“宽容大度“好,因为你要deliver message to people around the world , especially to those who are from western communities , you have to use some methods or languages familiar and easy to be understood by them.